Spiritual Compatibility
To know me is to know my spirit. If that understanding is not present between two people in an intimate relationship, something will be missing. If I don’t feel like that spiritual component is present I will withhold pieces of who I am, not out of a fear of rejection, but out of not being understood.
I’m not just talking about having a similar relationship with God. I’m also talking about having goals and a deep sense of connectedness to humanity. It’s about the desire to work on yourself inside and out. It’s about having purpose and seeing yourself as a contribution; it’s about how you see the world; it’s about compassion and helping others and having a similar concept of right and wrong.
On the other hand. . .I believe that unity is one of the most beautiful and dominant characteristics of the Kingdom of God. And as someone who follows Jesus, I live to bring people together like He did. I value diversity for the beautiful mosaic it creates when everyone works together for a common good. I believe that we can work together for this Kingdom even if we believe different things.
So my questions are these:
Is it hypocritical of me to believe that unity and diversity are a beautiful way to live towards God but not offer the same grace in my intimate relationships? Is it hypocritical of me to require that my partner be someone with whom I sees eye to eye on a spiritual matters when I believe it is not necessary in the grander scheme of the world?




